Do you really listen to your children with complete attention?

Listening and attention skills are vital in building a child’s cognitive, behavioural and affective aspects. It is essential they develop this ability to interact and communicate with the world efficiently. One of many extremely complex tasks of parenting is to be able to strike a close to ideal balance of styles of listening and responding with the appropriate styles to a child’s varying needs. Many parents may think they are truly listening when all they are doing is pretend listening or at best selective listening but this is self-deception, designed to hide from themselves their laziness. Children themselves often like to drift in and out of communication.

Less than ten years of age, child’s propensity to talk is so great. The effort required to truly listen can be exhausting for a parent. And finally, it would be unbelievably boring because the fact of the matter is that the chatter of ten years old is generally boring.  For true listening, no matter how brief, requires tremendous effort and total concentration. You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time. There are families in which the children are virtually not allowed to talk. “Children should be seen and not heard”. Such children may be seen, never interacting, silently staring at adults from the corner, MUTE ONLOOKERS FROM THE SHADOWS. Some permit their child’s chatter but simply not listen to it, so that your child is not interacting with you but is literally talking to thin air or to himself/herself.

Another type of parents pretend to listen, preceding along as best they can with what they are doing or with their train of thoughts while appearing to give the child their attention and occasionally making “unh huh” or “that’s nice” noises at more or less appropriate times.

Sometime parents do selective listening, where in they may pick up their ears if the child seems to be saying something important, hoping to separate the wheat from the chaff with a minimum effort. The problem with this way is that human mind’s capacity to filter selectively is not terribly competent or efficient, with the result that a fair amount of chaff is retained and a great deal of wheat lost.

Truly listening means giving your child full and complete attention, weighing each word and understanding each sentence. It is always recommended to parents that they should always truly listen to their children.

For children below ten years a balance of pretend, truly and selective listening is suggested. Sometimes children just want to interact with parents, just because they can’t talk to themselves, then their need can be quiet adequately met by pretend listening. At times what children want from interactions not communication but simply closeness and pretend listening will satisfy to provide them with the sense of “being with” that they want.

In other words, it is dull to listen to young children and truly listening at this age is real labour of love. If you give your child the same esteem you would give to your favourite task, then the child will know him or herself to be valued and therefore will feel valuable. Value creates value. There is no better and ultimately no other way to teach your children that they are valuable people than by valuing them. The more you listen to your child, the more you’ll realize that in amongst the pauses, the stuttering, the innocent chatter, your child does indeed have valuable things to say.

The dictum that great wisdom comes from “the mouths of babies” is recognised as an absolute fact by anyone who truly listen to children.

Awaken through breathing

 Just like metal that rusts in the presence of oxygen, so does your body, and its called oxidative stress. So oxygen control is necessary to prevent oxidative stress in the body. Antioxidants in food is necessary to prevent oxidative stress that causes free radical damage to cells. So correct breathing means less food is required. If you imagine you have a fire in your body, just like a normal fire, oxygen is needed for the fire to burn, however too much oxygen causes the fire to burn too bright, causing damage, too little oxygen, the fire doesn't burn at all, and no energy created. So just the right amount of oxygen is required. Our main goal is to correct your breathing so that your normal rate of breathing at rest is 3-4 breaths per minute. On average people breathe 10+ breaths per minute. Very sick or highly stressed people breathe over 20+ breaths per minute. Benefits
 •Awaken dormant functions of the brain.
•Enhance creativity
•Create heightened states of consciousness and inspiration.
•Improve brain function and mind power
•Cleanse and purify the bloodstream and lymphatic system.
•Activate stem cells
•Stimulate self healing
•Reduce depression/anxiety
•Clear negative imprints and traumas from early life (0-7 years).
•Self realisation, discover your true self, your deeper inner calling.

 To breathe right, we must keep in mind to:
 •Inhale from the NOSE as much as possible
•Inhale into the BELLY as much as possible
•Breathe in a smooth RHYTHMICAL pattern


Life is a series of inhales and exhales, meaning that your quality of thought is strongly linked to your breath. Erratic breathing leads to erratic thinking. Smooth consistent breathing leads to coherent thought. This allows you to go into the deepest meditative state possible where you can connect with your subconscious mind.
 Instructions:
 Inhale for 4 seconds
 Exhale for 4 seconds
Make NO pauses between inhale and exhale
Repeat for about 5 minutes

 Pay attention to how you feel before doing this excercise, and then pay attention to how you feel after the exercise. Becoming highly efficient at using oxygen means you become highly efficient at creating energy and therefore you become healthier, stronger and happier as a result.  

Smilotherapy

  SMILE Smile is the key for enhanced happiness. Kids smile & laugh more than adults(may more than hundred times), that’s why they are more happier than us. Five facts about smile

☆Women smile more than men.
☆ Smiling releases endorphins that make us feel better.
☆ We are all born with the ability to smile, it's not something we learn from others.
☆ A smile is a universal expression of happiness.
☆ A smiling person is thought to be a more pleasant, attractive, sociable, sincere and competent than a non-smiling person.
☆ Did you know it takes only 17 muscles to smile, but 43 to frown. Why waste all that energy frowning when you could just smile.
Just SMILE Let the day begin with more smiles...Stand in front of the mirror and give a big smile to that crazy fellow on the mirror. That's a good start...
More Smiles per hour...Ready-Steady-Go....

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Shaveta Bhardwaj  

Know what is inner child

“Children are born loving their parents, and they’re born assuming their parents love them. Their relationship with the family they are born into is their first taste of human connection, and thus, their first taste of love. It doesn’t matter if we in our adult perspective look backwards and say: ‘That was NOT a loving household…’ A child does not know any different than this version of love that exists in their home. Because of this, they associate love with home. The way that they felt in their home and in their relationship with their parents becomes their definition of love” 

First years of life are spent mainly with our parents or caretakers, the relationship formed with them in these early years sets the tone for how we behave in our adulthood either in relationships with others or just for life in general. Every child, including those from the happiest or most functional of homes, experiences some level of rejection, sadness, or “trauma” (no matter how big or small). Unless these wounds were properly healed we are most likely still carrying them in our subconscious. When these emotional wounds are brought into our conscious awareness they will manifest in our outward life, which means we will keep finding our self in the same “problems” in our relationships with others until the light of awareness, healing and love is brought to the inner child inside of us. We have to bring the memories back up, only then we can accept them. We accept the fact that our parents literally gave us the best they could give. Once we know this, we can find it easier to offer at least some sort of empathy as to why they behaved in the way they did, and eventually forgive them completely. Once we have transmuted old hurts into love we are able to offer more love to all the people in our lives. 

Know how words can change your reality

Words have a specific vibrational frequencies which can influence our DNA. Our body can be programmed by language, words and thought.

The words we use shape not only our belief systems, values and feelings but impact our physical bodies on a cellular level; shaping the foundation of our reality. This means it’s important to choose our words wisely.

Here are some ways words can transform your realities:

1) Express yourself honestly

An honest expression is extremely important. Every feeling and thought you have is valid. When you try to hold it instead of letting it out, you will feel your emotional body struggling in its attempt to break free.

Solution- Acceptance is the foremost step for transformation . Express all your negative emotions and replace them with positive affirmations.

2) Stop negative self-talk

Negative words and phrases like ‘ugly’, ‘fat’, ‘I can’t’ and ‘I hate’ as these words create negative frequencies of worthlessness, suffering and fear.

When you want to express a negative emotion or thought, use words like ‘I feel’ or ‘I prefer’ over ‘I hate’ and ‘I can’t’.

Solution- Use positive words like ‘loving, grateful, superb, beautiful, thriving, energized, healthy, creative, incredible.' It will transform your feelings and impressions of yourself.

3) Feed the emotional body with a healthy vocabulary

Just like our bodies respond better to balanced fresh meals, our emotional bodies need to be encouraged, loved and cared for.

Solution- Repeat to yourself, 

“I am good enough” 

“I am strong and capable”

“Wherever I am, whatever I do and whoever I become, I am safe and I am loved” 

“I open myself up to love and light.”

This will incite great confidence and ease within you. It will free you from anxiety and fear as you start to function out of love.

6 DON’Ts for over-worrying, over-focusing on your child and being a helicopter parent

1• Don’t hover over your child. Don’t tie your 5-year-old’s shoes when he/she can tie or dress him/her when they can dress themselves. 

2• Avoid talking to their teachers incessantly, or answer all your child’s questions so they don't have to think of answers. 

3• If your children hesitate to make their own decisions, try not to jump in and do it for them. let them reason it out on their own if they can. 

4• Allow them to feel discomfort or pain; it’s part of growing up. Don’t prevent them from struggling or rescue them from life’s hardships. 

5• Don’t try to get all your emotional needs met by your child. If you’re there at his beck-and-call and over-functioning for him (in other words, doing for him what he can do for himself), he’ll have a hard time functioning on his own in the world. 

6• Don’t take it personally if your child doesn’t agree with you, or does things differently from you. If you get in your child’s head, he won’t be able to hear his own thoughts and beliefs. Even if he thinks differently than you, don’t argue with him over it—instead, invite him to tell you more. Don’t shut him down when he has ideas or opinions that are different from the ones you would like him to have, or insist on having the last word. 

Children can’t learn if their parents are always doing it for them.

What’s the right approach? 

I always suggest , “Pretend there’s a line delineating what you believe your kid can handle and what he or she can’t. Now, put your toe over it, just a little.” Let your kids try to do things that are just beyond what you think they can handle. In psychology, it is called the “expectancy effect." Let your child experience the consequences of his actions. Let go of constant worry as a parent, and realize you can’t control everything your kids do—you can only respond to how they behave. Try to see their strengths as well as their struggles. You can avoid over-worrying and being a helicopter parent if you work on developing strong relationships with your children by getting to know them for who they are. This will allow you to let go of hovering, doing too much for your kids and worrying about them all the time, and best of all, it will help you become a calmer, more peaceful parent. 

Recognize your frozen inner child

We all have secrets and most of us have had some wounds tied to our inner child. Our wounds could be result of a childhood friend moving away, physical or psychological abuse, or a broken family, the resulting pain will live with us for the rest of our lives; and we may be reminded of the pain unexpectedly. If we do inner-child work by connecting to the little boy or girl within us, we can reconnect with some of the reasons for our adult fears, phobias. and life patterns. When we begin to understand them, then magic, healing, and transformation can occur.

Behavioural patterns playing out in our lives based on frozen Inner child.

1.) The RESCUER:

Rescuers please parents for love and others call them goody/ teacher's pet.

Result- Later in life, they like victims and like to rescue people to make sure victims are dependent on them because it make them feel in control and needed.

2.) The RATIONALIZER: 

Rationalizers live in their head because it is safest. They are mostly disconnected from their own emotions because they can't deal with feelings. Most of the times, in their childhood they were instructed not to cry, show anger and express their feelings.

Result- Later in life, they do not remember the last time they got angry/upset.

3.) The REBEL: Rebels like to control parents or people around. They get attention by being naughty or by making fuss.

Result- Later in life, they like to shock and often get angry because people won't do what they want them to do.

4.) The VICTIM> Victims get attention by sobbing, crying or by not being well. They easily get hurt and they think that by crying people around them pour love.

Result- They see faults in everyone around. They can't take their own responsibility because If they take no one will look after them or give them attention.

5.) The ACHIEVER:  Achievers try harder and harder to prove to their parents and get love in return.

Result- Later in life, they become workaholics and over stressed because they think that without success they will be tagged as failure and they won't be loved.

6.) The PLEASER:

 Pleasers supress their own feelings for others' happiness. According to them if they will please people, they gonna like pleasers and if people will feel happy they won't reject pleasers.

Result-They don't value their self. Later, they will anything for quite life and always remain guilty. they only can relax when everyone has everything they want.

How can you overcome social anxiety?

Social Anxiety can be very discomforting. To free yourself from this prison, you will have to rewire your brain with new thoughts that take time to cement in the brain. 

1. The change cannot happen overnight: People often try out strategies and when they do not work, they give up. Remember that rewiring the brain can take months, but trying to change your thoughts over months could save you years of unnecessary anxiety. So remember, that when you try out any thought change, the brain will initially resist this. The one way to overcome brain resistance is with dedicated and repeated practice. 

2. You are not the only person with personal secrets: We often make assumptions that we are the only people with secrets. Understand that you are not the only one with secrets. 

3. Insecurity and security are two sides of the same coin: Those people who claim to be "secure" have not shown their insecurity. They have simply learned to redirect their attention to their strengths rather than their weaknesses. Brain circuits of opposite emotions are on most of the time. Where you place your attention is what you will feel. It is similar to courage and fear. 

4. You have more to say than you think: People often feel socially anxious because they are afraid that they would have nothing to say. But this happens because they are constantly thinking of what they "should" say rather than what they want to say. Grant yourself the permission to speak spontaneously. In fact, many other people at these parties feel the same kind of nervousness. Some suggestions of ice-breakers: "Hi! How are you? I Just thought it would be better to connect than stand alone" (Honesty often gets a giggle and can start a great conversation) "How are you? I love your....(shoes, dress or bag)" (compliments set the tone for a positive start). 

5. Social anxiety is really personal discomfort: Social anxiety is not really social at all. So ask yourself: how can I be more self-accepting? To be self-accepting requires that you see that perfection does not exist.

3 ways to get out of bad mood in less than 5 minutes

Bad mood can ruin your day as well as that of the people around you. When you’re in a negative or ‘bad’ mood, there are simple things you can do to quickly help you feel much more positive.

1.Fake it ’till you make it is one way that people suggest getting out of a bad mood, and by that they mean to put a smile on, even if you don’t feel the corresponding happy emotion that goes with it. It’s possible that faking a smile will actually help boost your mood, and we do recommend trying it, because there’s virtually no down side to it.

2. TAPPING Here’s What Happens When You Tap These Points On Your Body Tapping can get you out of a bad mood in less than 5 minutes. Tapping acupressure points on your body can help you get rid of negative thoughts that may be causing your bad mood. Read about how to tap your body to remove feelings of sadness, anger or anxiety in our article. You can do several rounds of tapping therapy on yourself to get out of a bad mood in less than 5 minutes.

3. GIVE YOURSELF A PEP TALK Positive self-talk can help improve your mood when you are feeling down. Often, there is a negative voice in our heads that is telling us to feel guilty, ashamed, or that replays the setbacks of the day. Maybe you are feeling lonely or rejected. We have to counter that negativity with some serious self-love to get out of a bad mood.

HERE ARE A FEW POSITIVE SELF-TALK PHASES YOU CAN USE:

*I know I can do this because I’ve succeeded at tasks like this before.

*I am intelligent and I believe in my ability to get all of my work done today.

*Today I’m going to be amazing and I won’t let setbacks slow me down.

*I learn from my mistakes and I am going to do so much better the next time. 

Know what your doodles and drawing say about your personality

Different patterns that you draw unconsciously while talking to someone on the phone or during a meeting can reveal quite a bit about your personalities and the motives behind your actions. When you doodle, your pen is guided by your subconscious mind, which holds your thoughts and secrets and takes control of your behavior. I want to tell you about the true meanings of the patterns we scribble unconsciously on a daily basis. 

Figures of people 

If you doodle little people, you probably feel insecure and helpless or try to get away from some of your responsibilities. Drawing simple stick figures indicates that you’re emotionally unstable and feel the need to isolate yourself from other people.

Eyes 

Doodles of eyes represent the inner self of the person drawing them. Big eyes show an outgoing personality, staring eyes symbolize the feeling of being watched and closed eyes may indicate a refusal to look inside yourself. 

Your signature 

Signature doodlers are egocentric and arrogant. Doodling your signature often, without thinking, during a conversation or while trying to solve a problem, reveals a self-centered personality. 

Animals 

The type of animal you scribble speaks volumes about your current emotions and personality. A tiger or a wolf reveals a hidden unexpressed anger; if it’s a fox — you probably want to do something sly; drawing a squirrel shows that you’re in need of care and protection; lions are usually drawn by those who feel superior and better than other people. If you doodle the same animal time after time, that means you compare yourself to it unconsciously and try to imitate its character. 

Squares, diamonds and other geometric figures

 You have clearly defined goals and beliefs and rarely keep your opinions to yourself. You are stubborn and insistent. You’re usually overly cautious and careful — I would suggest that you rethink your attitude on this. 

Arrows 

Arrows symbolize a vector, your direction in life. If the arrow is pointing upwards — you’re a people oriented person, if it points down — you’re self-focused; a leftward arrow means that you’re stuck in the past, and if it points to the right, you look forward to the future. 

Stars

You want to be the center of attention; you want all eyes on you when you walk into a room and to turn heads wherever you go, but if the stars you draw have too many points or if they are drawn separately from the center, it could be a sign that you are suffering from depression. 

Flowers, clouds and sun 

Drawing perky-looking flowers and the sun while talking on the phone indicates that you’re satisfied about what’s going on and probably fantasise about the good things awaiting you in your future. These scribbles reveal your positive attitude and the fact that you are in good spirits. 

Crosses

These could mean that you’re feeling guilty over something, or blame yourself for your mistakes. Little houses and boxes Symmetrical shapes reveal your love of order and your disposition to thoroughly plan and calculate things. You know exactly what you want, your life goals are set and you will stand by your opinion no matter what. 

Chessboards

It looks like recently you found yourself in a particularly unpleasant and uncomfortable situation. If drawings like these are constantly present, chances are you’re probably dealing with some hidden issues that have something to do with your inability to resolve a particular situation, or you’re trying to find yourself and your mission in life and have doubts about the path you’re on. 

Beehive patterns 

Your number one priority is to maintain peace and harmony in your life, and you also want to settle down and maybe start a family.

Spirals

Other people’s problems don’t bother you much. In your head, you always solve different problems and think about tasks. Maybe you are a genius? 

Circles and rings 

Circular shapes represent a need to find unity. ’"I feel left out in this world." That’s what your doodles say about you. If you draw circles unconsciously, this probably means you’re in need of a friend and some attention, which, in the end, may lead to depression, so take care. Or maybe you’re just an introvert who doesn’t need too much communication. 

Easy brain excercise to improve concentration

Have you experienced difficulty concentrating in most of the things of your daily life? Or maybe you’re having a tough time remembering things like names of people you meet? On top of things, you are having trouble getting through that long list of things to do. But how do you keep your brain in tip-top shape? Exercise, of course! 

Exercise isn’t just for your physical health, it is for your mental health, too. Brain exercises improve memory and brain function, and they can be quick and easy to do. 

Below you’ll find 5-minute brain exercise to perform each day to strengthen your brain and improve your memory, concentration and brain function. 

5-Minute Head Tapping

When the mind is engaged too intensively with work or with too many thoughts, it’s common for the head to feel overheated. This is caused by lack of good energy and blood circulation. If it continues, thoughts will not cease and your focus level will drop significantly. In this case, try gentle, specific tapping to open energy points on the head. This head tapping exercise will supply oxygen and energy to your brain and clear your mind.  

How to Practice Head Tapping:

1. Gently tap your head with your fingers. Breathe out all the active oxygen and heat that has accumulated from the stress. Smiling brightly while tapping will help oxygen flow even better to the brain.

2. On your forehead tap the frontal lobe, which controls memory and thinking skills, and imagine ideas springing from your head.

3. Tap the parietal lobe on the top of your head and imagine that the nerve functions and somatic senses of the parietal lobe are improving.

4. Tap the sides of your head near your ears and imagine your hearing abilities becoming clearer and stronger.

5. Tap the occipital lobe on the back of your head and imagine your vision improving and your eyes becoming clearer.

6. Tap the cerebellum at the bottom of the back of your head and imagine your athletic and hand-eye coordination and sense of balance improving.

7. Tap all around your head once again and then sweep your head with the palms of your hands; your brain will feel refreshed!

Blood supply is extremely important to the brain since it carries the oxygen essential for healthy neuron activity. If there is energy stagnation, however, the brain’s blood circulation can be hindered; the majority of intractable brain diseases, such as cerebral hemorrhage, apoplectic dementia, Alzheimer’s, and Parkinson’s, are due to a lack of blood circulation in the brain and a corresponding loss of neurons. 

How IQ testing can help you?

How IQ testing can help you? 

●The Intelligence Quotient (IQ) is one of the best ways to get an overall view of human behavior.

●IQ is not just your ability to solve problems –  it is a measure of your overall efficiency of brain. 

●Quickness of mind, Attention deficit disorders, inattention, easy distractibility, disorganization, procrastination and forgetfulness can only be improved when you know that you are lacking in these areas.

 ●IQ tests can offer insight as to where one needs to improve or practice. 

●IQ testing can predict individual's future performance in the way of work or education.

Know yourself in the terms of IQ score and enhance your learning experiences. 

4 amazing ways to practice positive thinking

Having trouble in positive thinking? Here are some ways to practice positive thinking. 

1. Create Awareness: Listen to patterns, triggers, beliefs that create those negative thoughts. Get an understanding when those negative thoughts appear and identify the exact moment where those beliefs were created.

Ask Yourself: How true are these negative thoughts? Where do those negative thoughts come from? 

2. Change your thoughts: After you created awareness around your negative self-talk, start changing the message and words into a more powerful, positive message. Change 'problems' to 'solutions'. Change 'I will try to do ...' to 'I will do it!'. Ask Yourself: What would be a more positive thought?

3. Journaling: It helps to understand and identify where those negative patterns or beliefs come from. Ask Yourself: What disempowering thoughts and feelings am I having? 

4. Check your environment: Most negative thoughts, beliefs or patterns we pick up because of our surrounding. Negative people, news, Social Media, hobbies, certain times and places contribute to your negative self-talk. 

Ask Yourself: How willing are you to make a change to talk in a way that’s helpful rather than harmful?

7 signs to know that your chakra are blocked

Aligning the chakras is usually a matter of being mindful and present to the way energy moves through our body.

Chakra 1- Root chakra

You’re blocked by fear: A clear sign that your root chakra is blocked when you experience a strong sense of fear and paranoia along with the feeling of disconnection and imbalance.

To unblock this chakra- Embrace your fear. Surrender to it. Tenderly wrestle it through your mindful breath work (inhale). Then let it go (exhale). Slowly dissolve the anxiety associated with it. Eventually you’ll be able to transform fear into courage.

Chakra 2- Sacral chakra

 You’re blocked by guilt: A clear sign that your sacral chakra is blocked is an overwhelming feeling of guilt and self-blame along with the threatening feeling that you will never feel pleasure again. Guilt is a bugger of an emotion. It hangs around like a thorn in the side. It forces us to look backward into the shattered mirror of regret.

To unblock this chakra-  Allow yourself to become vulnerable enough to forgive yourself. Sincerely forgive yourself. Fearlessly forgive yourself. Give up all hope for a better past. Be fluid. This chakra is also known as the water chakra. Allow yourself to feel pleasure despite the pain. Embrace the moment and allow your mindful breath to wash over you in loving forgiveness. 

Chakra 3 - Solar Plexus

You are blocked by shame: A clear sign that your solar plexus chakra is blocked is a crushing feeling of shame and humiliation accompanied with an overwhelming sense of insecurity and self-doubt. Shame is very difficult to resolve, because a little shame is necessary to keep us humble and unassuming. The same can be said for insecurity and self-doubt. These are all healthy in tiny doses. But when we feel unworthy and our self-esteem is so low it becomes a crippling thing.

To unblock this chakra- Mindfully engaging the fire of whatever it is that keeps you passionate and enthusiastic about life. Another name for this chakra is the fire chakra. Dance with your shame in the in the fire. Let it burn your shame. Let it burn you. Let it burn your insecurity and self-doubt into manageable ashes.

Chakra 4- Heart chakra

You’re blocked by grief: A clear sign that your heart chakra is blocked is a profound feeling of grief and coupled with a miserable feeling of apathy. This is usually due to love lost, a death in the family, unmet expectations, and/or an inability to let go of the ego’s attachment to love. We experience a lack of empathy on the emotional level, and a lack of openness and flexibility on the spiritual level. We have trouble loving ourselves and we become afraid to be vulnerable with others. Another name for this chakra is the air chakra. 

To unblock this chakra- Breathe in love. Breathe out love lost. Imagine your heart breaking into a million little pieces (exhale), and then imagine it coming back together again, stronger than before (inhale). Feel the pain. Suffer the broken heart. Be with the grief. Then let it all go with a loving exhalation and let the healing forces of the universe spill through the cracks. 

Chakra 5 Throat chakra

You’re blocked by lies: A clear sign that your throat chakra is blocked is a closed-in feeling of inauthenticity and dishonesty coupled with claustrophobic feelings of insecurity and anxiousness. Many people experience closed throat chakras, that’s because the majority of us live with deception and lies. As a result, we’re often lying to ourselves without even realizing it and we’re unable to be honest with ourselves or genuine with others. We experience poor communication with ourselves, with others and with the greater cosmos. Another name for this chakra is the sound chakra.

To unblock this chakra- Mindfully break down reality as you know it. Then surrender to no-mind and engage reality as you feel it. With enough mindful/no-mind meditation coupled with self-interrogation meditation centered on the throat chakra, feelings of anxiousness, restrictedness and claustrophobia will melt away into harmony, openness and honest connection with the cosmos. 

Chakra 6 Third eye 

You’re blocked by illusion: A clear sign that your third eye chakra is blocked is a strong feeling of dissociation, like you’re living in a dream world, coupled with poor intuition and a weak sense of identity. We are conditioned to view the world as separate from us. But the illusion of separation is the greatest illusion of all. Everything is connected to everything else. Yet when we’re blocked to this deep understanding, we’re under the impression that the self (ego) is in opposition with the world (soul). When really, self and world, ego and soul, are all connected. Another name for this chakra is the light chakra. 

To unblock this chakra- Imagine your breath as light work. Visualize the bright light of your third eye, looking down on all things.You are all things (world) and all things are you (self). Visualize the bright light of your third eye, looking down on all things. Breathe out (your pupil is the sun). Breathe in (your pupil is the moon). You are all things (world) and all things are you (self). 

Chakra 7 Crown chakra

You’re blocked by attachment: A clear sign that your crown chakra is blocked is a feeling of disconnection between mind, body, and soul. This is the most difficult to open. Even once opened, it is the most difficult to keep open, or to reopen. 

To unblock this chakra- Constantly let go of each passing moment. Breathe in that moment; breathe out this moment. It’s all a loving fantasy. Surrender to divine union and cosmic love (then let it go), stretching out forever (and never).

6 Scientific reasons why you should wake up early

Waking up early is no easy task. There are almost no limits to the positive things waking early can do for your mind and body. 

6 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD WAKE UP EARLY EVERY MORNING

1. THERE’S PEACE, QUIET, AND SILENCE 

When you wake up early, you’re up before the rest of the world is. There are no sounds of honking horns, music or loud voices. You have this moment to really hear your thoughts. Wake up early and read a book or simply sit in silence. Look out the window and admire the world, or use the time to meditate. Silent moments are actually highly beneficial for the brain and body. They help to: ●Increase oxygen levels in the brain 

●Reduce blood pressure 

●Lessen migraines 

●Boost mental health 

2. YOU’LL HAVE BETTER BODY & BRAIN FUNCTION 

If you’re feeling dizzy or fatigued throughout the day, you might need to start getting up early. People who wake up earlier enjoy better critical thinking and problem-solving skills. They tend to be more creative, funnier and experience boost in concentration and memory. 

Here’s an idea of what happens in deep sleep cycles: 

●Increased blood supply in muscles 

●Tissue repairBone repair 

●Cellular corrections 

●Release of growth hormones to build muscle ●Lowered blood pressure 

●Relaxation of the boidy 

3. THERE’S A CHANCE IT’LL MAKE YOU MORE ATTRACTIVE 

If you want to improve your appearance, you should sleep and wake up early. The more tired you appear, the less attractive you’ll be perceived. There’s another factor that the first few morning hours are so important, people who wake up early are likely to have lower body mass indices. if you’re aiming to burn fat, waking up early may be the way to go. 

4. WAKING UP EARLY HAS LINKS TO GOOD GRADES

Many students study in late hours but reversing this and starting to wake up early can actually be better for good marks. This is due to better time management, but it can also be because early risers tend to have better concentration. 

5. YOU’RE MORE PRODUCTIVE WHEN YOU WAKE UP EARLY 

Those who wake up early also tend to be more persistent than others, so they are more determined to complete tasks. Here are some of the other ways being an early riser can boost your overall productivity: 

●Your brain is recharged 

●You start your day with less distractions

●You have more energy for tasks 

●You’ll be in a better mood 

6. YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND POSITIVE THINKING WILL SOAR 

Waking up early does you a lot of benefits, but the largest is probably on mental health. Sleeping too much by not waking up early can even put you at a higher risk for developing depression. The same goes for other mental illnesses and disorders. If you find yourself lying awake at night with bad thoughts are taking charge in your head, it may be time to readjust your sleeping patterns. Waking up early – and therefore sleeping earlier daily – can provide the relief you need. 

4 Special Ways to Practice Gratitude Every day

We all have little moments that we may be subconsciously thankful for, but we rarely fully acknowledge. If you take the time to acknowledge these little things by practicing gratitude, you’ll feel more peace and joy. Practicing gratitude can have a huge impact on your overall happiness and you can do it in several different ways.

1.) Start an appreciation calendar.

Take a traditional hanging calendar or a planner, but just be sure that you have enough space on each day to write five things for which you are grateful. A calendar is a great format for appreciation because you can see every little thing that brings you gratefulness during an entire month.

2.) Write a handwritten letter.

Write a letter by hand to someone who you have never properly thanked. Take the time to write a true, heartfelt letter to one of these people. Let them know how your life has been changed because of their presence in it and express true thankfulness.

3. Turn gossiping sessions into gratefulness sessions. 

When you meet your friends, instead of gossips or complaints, make an effort to share the positive highlights of your week. This gives you the opportunities to voice gratefulness and celebrate the good things together.

4. Think of everything as a gift. 

One great way to transform the seemingly small parts of life into opportunities for gratitude is to frame everything as a gift. Rather than thinking of your morning cup of coffee as just a cup of coffee, think of it as a gift of coffee. Once you change your language surrounding the smaller parts of your day, the gratitude and joy will follow. 

LAUGHTER as THERAPY

What does laughter therapy do to your body and mind?

● Laughter can strengthen your immune system, alleviate pain and best of all, changes your energy!

●Laughter is also a powerful antidote to stress, pain and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh.

●Laughter can even heal your social relationships because, when laughter is shared, it binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy.

Below you’ll discover 5 ways to practice laughter therapy:
1.] Make Yourself Laugh
Don't wait for someone else to make you laugh. Enjoy your own company. Make laughter part of your daily health regimen. For example, start your morning off by smiling at yourself in the bathroom mirror and laughing at least five times. Or, hum a song that makes you laugh when you are taking a shower. Just laugh at yourself 1-2 minutes a day without any reason. It changes your mood immediately and you’ll start to feel the benefits of laughter.

2.] Watch your favorite comedy film or television show When it comes to the laughter, the sillier or more stupid the movie or show is, the better. The best laughs often come from the least amount of thinking!

3.] Share a good joke or a funny story 
So what if you've told this one a thousand times. Some things never stop being funny and they're good reminders that you still have your sense of humor.

4.] Play with puppies! 
Cute little animals can add some laughter medicine and joy to your life (and theirs, too).

5.] Pencil in some fun time
Make time for activities that are just for fun— non-competitive—like bowling, miniature golfing, plate spinning, karaoke, or face painting. 

5 steps to feel better in 45 seconds

      
5 steps to feel better in 45 seconds. 

1.) Close your eyes.

2.) Take a deep breath through your nose for about 6 seconds.

3.) Breathe out gently through pursed lips for about 8 seconds & let it all go.

4.) Repeat breathing excercise 3 times.

5.) Realise that your inner peace is more important than worries you are having right now. Calm mind is your super power. Own your super power & bring it with you wherever you go. If you feel need to recharge just pause and repeat this exercise again.

3 Tips to make your children feel loved

3 Tips to make your children feel loved 


1.) Children need minimum of 8 touches during a day to feel connected to a parent. If they are going through a particularly challenging time then your need of minimum 12 hugs a day. It could be as simple as the straightening of a collor, a pat on the shoulder or a simple hug.

2.) Each day, children need minimum one meaningful eye to eye conversation with a parent. It is especially important for babies to have that eye contact but children of all ages need to look them into eyes.

3.) There are 9 minutes during the day that have the greatest impact on the child:

* First 3 minutes after they wake up in the morning.

* The 3 minutes after they come home from the school.

* The last 3 minutes of the day before they go to bed.

It is the duty of a parent to make these moments special and help our children feel loved.

Know Emotional causes of obesity

Food addiction : Obesity 

Food addictions are combination of genetic factors coupled with distorted emotional coping. Food addictions are clear syndromes of toxic shame. Figures range from 34 million, with 60% women and 50% of men being overweight. Generally strong defensive rationalisations are used to "excuse" obese behaviour and deny its life-damaging consequences. In some cases, children learn to repress emotional expression and to stuff their feelings with food. Obese people feel empty, lonely and eat to be full and filled (fulfilled). Anger manifests in the gut and eating and being full take away the feeling of loneliness. Obese people often act jolly and happy to cover up their fear of the potential shame if they expressed deep sorrow or anger. 95% of people who diet gain the weight back within 5 years. In dieting, one has the sense of controlling and fixing the problem. Control is one of the major strategies of cover- up for shame. Covering up is the attempt to control the outside so that the inside will not be exposed. 

Control and release are natural polarities in human activity. What an obese person actually need to release is their anger by expressing it. 

Know yourself through your perception of others

If we take any random person then pick five people in their life and interview them about said person we are bound to hear five different perceptions about them. One person may perceive them as funny, kind and warm-hearted while another person may see them as irresponsible, immature, and unintelligent.
So whose perception is the correct one?

We frame our own perception about people that we meet based on our own relationship with ourselves and our own personality traits. For example, let’s say a person has never experienced the feeling of envy, how could they recognize this trait in another person if they have never experienced it? It means turning our attention outward and blaming or judging others is pointless.

If we pay close attention to who or what brings about a strong emotional reaction from us,we can utilize this to our advantage. Negative reactions indicate either one of two things. One that either we are attached to an idea or belief about the way things SHOULD be or the way someone SHOULD behave which means we are trying to force our own agenda on to other people, when in fact, no one has to behave the way we think they should. Anytime we hold people to our expectations of them instead of accepting them as they are, we are sitting in resistance of the present moment. The other thing a negative emotional reaction can indicate is that there is an aspect of our self that we are not wanting to look at, so we are literally finding it in other people as a clue to us that we need to bring awareness to this trait in ourselves.

As Carl Jung said, “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.” 


To truly heal a part of our self that we have become conditioned to hide from the world we must start to practice 100% honesty with ourselves. If we are experiencing anger, we admit and allow our self to experience anger, when we experience fear, we identify the fear and only become aware of it. It doesn’t mean we have to judge ourselves as good or bad because of the emotions it only means that we are aware of it and are then able to send unconditional love to these parts of ourselves. Although, it may sound terrible to always see ourselves as the “problem” and always have to turn our hand and point the finger back at ourselves when we so badly want to point it at another person, it actually is the most empowering move we can make. When we see our self as the “problem” we automatically become our own solution. When we start to see our self in everyone we automatically start making an honest and authentic relationship with ourselves. And when our relationship with ourselves is loving and accepting, we start not only seeing these same traits in other people but we realize that things or people that used to bring about a strong negative reaction from us are now met with forgiveness and compassion. We quite literally change and heal our relationships with others by changing and healing our relationship with ourselves. 

3 fastest ways to relax

Neuroscience shows there are 3 things that will take you into a conscious state of serenity in less than a minute or two:
1.) Slow deep breathing through your nose.
2.) Slow conscious streching of your body.
3.) Believe it or not- yawning.
There are, to date 43 published studies showing that yawning ( which brings more oxygen to your brain) is the fastest way to temporarily alleviate neurological symptoms like headaches, exhaustion, anxiety and anger.